Mar 3

Create Change Through Energetic Cord Cutting Ceremonies


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When we have toxic energetic cords hooked into our systems, our life force is literally being siphoned and drained. Cord cutting ceremonies are about freeing ourselves from that which no longer serves our highest and deepest good. They are a potent channel for re-claiming our rightful power, and releasing ourselves from people and situations that have become heavy or harmful.

As we all know, life is messy, complicated and often, challenging. Many challenges shape shift as we work through them. Others call for us to proclaim enough is enough. Deciding what is and is not deserving of our attention, time and energy is not always easy.

So, how can we recognize when toxic cords have hooked in? There are a few telltale signs.

In unhealthy family and professional situations, the patterns are very similar. There is dread when you anticipate the next time you have to engage with this person. Just seeing their name pop up on your phone triggers anxiety, making it almost impossible for you to hang on to any joy or peace you might have been experiencing before they reached out. In the time leading up to an inevitable interaction, you are on edge, feeling stressed and unnerved. In their presence, you simply cannot “just relax” and be yourself.

During and immediately after the interaction, you feel very drained, tired and “icky”. Like there’s this grime, or green slime, all over and you can’t quite shake it off. Your physical body is also expressing its discomfort. Possibly with headaches, shoulder and neck pain, an increased heart rate, shallow breathing, or indigestion and an upset stomach. You might also find you have difficulty thinking clearly, and notice a subtle constriction in your throat. This person/ situation is activating your nervous system and your survival instincts. Your physiology is literally picking up on and preparing to defend against a possible attack.

Consciously or unconsciously, people who prey on other’s to fill up what’s missing inside of them, are manipulative, cold and distant. They have a disregard for boundaries and personal space. They can be highly judgmental of others, and seem to take little notice of or responsibility for their own shortcomings. While they can be demanding and needy, more often than not they are passive-aggressive. They count on your guilt, your desire not to disappoint, and your feelings of obligation not to alter the dynamics, which are ever in their favor. Yet, sometimes they can be charming—which can feel dizzying and confusing. But, their charm is like being bathed in a fluorescent light. There is no real warmth or authenticity. There are always strings attached.

Does this sound familiar? Know that you are not alone. Often times, the most sensitive and empathic among us are the most vulnerable to these dynamics—due to our very nature. The beautiful thing is that it is our birthright to decide what we will and will not tolerate in our lives. To do this, we must matter to ourselves. This is non-negotiable. We must take responsibility for protecting our own well being as seriously, and as fiercely, as we take protecting those we love.

Transformation through Ritual, Releasing the ties that bind: The roots of energetic cord cutting are about Re-Claiming Power and Establishing Boundaries as an adult with all the resources that are now available to us. Ritualizing our intentions anchors them in the physical realm, creating powerful shifts internally and externally.

By taking action on our own behalf, we begin to change the flow of energy. We make space for new ways of being and experiencing to come in when we consciously choose to let go of something or someone that has been triggering pain and chaos.  Subsequently, we replace what is no longer useful with purposeful, healing energies. The seeds of new life. 

This work is deep and layered. It has the power to transform what has been unhealthy and toxic; by its very nature, it will begin to pull toward us life-expanding opportunities.

I invite you to ask yourself… Are you ready to re-claim your righteous power? Are you ready to create emotional, physical and energetic distance between yourself and dynamics that have become intolerable and unacceptable? Are you ready for real, meaningful change?

Did you find yourself saying, “yes”?  Would you like to learn more?  Then, I welcome you to connect with me at or 828-318-6908. We’ll schedule a complimentary, 20 min., introductory call. I’ll share with you detailed information about this powerful process, which can be facilitated in-person or at-a-distance. You will then have the opportunity to share what is resonate and ask any questions.

This is not work that should be approached lightly. Check in with yourself to be sure that on a deep level you are ready to create something very different. Because, when you are, then be assured the universe is already aligning with what is in your heart and soul.

May the courage, strength, fire and power that are alive in you rise up in service of the highest and deepest good. This is my blessing offered to you, to me and to all of us.

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Jan 1

The Burnout Epidemic: Lifting the Veil on the Compulsive Drive to Achieve and Produce


Stressed out

There is a voice inside many high-achieving women (and girls) that demands, “Go! Go! Go!  Do not slow down.  Do not stop.  Do not rest.  There is more to do!”  Just the thought of slowing, even for a moment, is terrifying because the fear threatens, “What if you cannot get going again? What if this time, is the time, it all falls apart? NO! You cannot stop, you cannot rest.  It is too dangerous!”

The echo left behind is sourced from an old, untreated wound that believes it is never enough.  External accomplishments are meant to silence the self-doubt that always seems to be pushing and driving–demanding more, more, more.  Caught up in the whirlwind of intense, chaotic activity there is little time for grounded reflection.  We write off the overwhelming stress and anxiety as a by-product of the “successful” life we are leading.  Pretending we believe things will be different once we close the big deal or land the next promotion.  But, the reprieve never comes.

In moments of despair, we may wonder why all of this accomplishing and achieving can’t seem to eradicate the sinking feeling that something crucial is missing.  It is as if, at the center of a life that reflects our culture’s definition of success, there is a barren, aching emptiness screaming, “This can’t be all there is!”

To touch into this feeling, this knowing for too long, is to walk through the doors of chaos and possibility.  Maureen Murdock gives voice to this soul disconnect and its source in, The Heroine’s Journey:

“Our heroine has learned to perform well, so when she feels a sense of discomfort she tackles the next hurdle: a new degree, a more prestigious position, a geographical move, a sexual liaison, another child.  She soothes her feelings of emptiness by massaging her ego with further acts of ‘heroism’ and achievement… There is a great adrenaline rush associated with the achievement of a goal, and this ‘high’ masks the deep-seated pain associated with not being enough.  She hardly notices the let-down after her goal has been won, she is onto the next one.

This obsessive need to stay busy and productive keeps her from having to experience her growing sense of loss.  But, what is loss?  Surely, she has achieved everything she has set out to do, but it has come at a great sacrifice to her soul.  Her relationship with her inner world is estranged.”

Deep in our bones we each feel the pull to answer the callings of our heart and soul.  The question is: Are we willing to turn toward ourselves? Are we willing to admit that we matter? Can we acknowledge that our needs, wants and desires are worthy?

The world is experiencing great change and women are being called to discover and declare new ways to live and lead.  Do you feel this calling?

If you are ready to live a more fulfilling and vitalizing life, if you are ready to embrace the most powerful parts of yourself, then I welcome you to connect with me at or 828.318.6908. We will do an initial call, free of charge, to see if a single session or personalized program series makes sense for you.

Please keep in mind that the best results are typically created when the reasons for the work are triggered by important periods of change, a need for personal growth or persistent feelings of dissatisfaction, frustration or the perception of being stuck.

In the words of the great Sufi mystic and poet, Rumi, “Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love.  It will not lead you astray.”

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Jan 1

I Am Here…Clutching My Throat

TransformationI am here… clutching my throat
trying to release my truths, trying to breathe…
but, my throat/ my body is silencing me.

With each second that takes me deeper into a voiceless whisper
I fear I have nothing worth expressing.
Or, rather, I fear I will make no sense.
I will not be understood.

And, this deep sacred eruption
that feels like feminine wisdom
having her way with the most vulnerable parts of my being
will be lost forever… to myself and the world.

No mirror to reflect Her magnificence.
Only a reflection of the past.

Stupid, naive girl- making something out of nothing…
looking for that which is not there- sneers the shadow.

Yet it is.  It is here!
These experiences are the MOST REAL.
There… Mystery… Truth

Standing in the fire.
Burning through the illusions.
Waiting in the In Between.

Do you know this place?

I don’t know how I know…
but, I KNOW…
It is in all of us if we choose to BE with it.

The road, the path, the journey…
the cycles, the process…
it is bittersweet.

Truths are not revealed on command.
In fact nothing, however desperate, can be summoned
from the place of unconscious egotistical command.

So, I stay with this heaviness in my chest
this lump in my throat…
this constriction of confusion.

I work with my dreams.
I write in my journal.
I sit with my experience.
And, I get closer to the pain.

I allow the darkness in…so that I may once again know the light.
Different.  Expanded.

I allow the darkness in…so that I may know the expressions of my soul.

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Jan 1

Learning to Dance with the Feminine

TransformationI AM… learning to dance with the feminine.

She is graceful.  I am awkward.
She is soft and strong, big and swirling.

I am trying.
I am stumbling.

She is patient, kind, loving.
Her hand is outstretched.
Her smile is inviting.
Her eyes are drawing me in.

I can trust my humanity in her presence.
It’s ok to fall.  It’s ok to fly.
I don’t look stupid or lost to her.

She sees all of me… even the parts I cannot yet see of myself.
She believes in me as I am.
So, I believe in me as I am.

For a time, I surrender and I am free.

I want to get it right.
Why is something so simple so hard?

Angst begins to form.
The cloud of irritation arrives.
I am no longer free.

She coaxes me to relax… to be lighter on my feet.
It is, of course, the precision that is tripping me up.

I want to let go.
So, I breathe.
I flow from where I am.
The uncomfortable self-consciousness shifts to an expansive feeling of love and acceptance. Peace.

I find the flow.  For a time, I am.

The process is the point.
The destination will always be unknown.
Slip into the moment, the flow and let the natural life unfold.

This is the dance with the feminine.

You don’t have to work so hard she whispers.
All you seek is here.
Come and dance.

Bring all your imperfections and all your heart’s desires.
Together, we will light up the world… from the inside out.

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